Men are the Death of Women

Toxic Masculinity has claimed far too many lives

In Cohasset, Ana Walsh has been missing since January 1st. Her husband is in custody for misleading the police during the investigation.

A 20-year-old woman was found dead behind her home. She had been decapitated. Her husband of only three months has admitted to the murder.

A Utah man shot and killed his wife and children before taking his own life.

A man driving his family home deliberately drives off a cliff. Miraculously, everyone survives. The man was arrested for attempted murder.

Every day a woman’s life is in jeopardy. Whether it’s a boyfriend, husband, or casual acquaintance, if a woman doesn't give a man what he wants, she’s literally risking her life. Why?

There’s so much violence in the United States. It seems that violence is all we understand. We, as a people, for many reasons, have lost the ability to calmly and civilly communicate with one another. How did this happen?

Violence is an ancient plague in every country. The first murder was chronicled in the Bible with Cain and Abel. Since then, violence has been the way humanity has settled many of its disputes. Whether claiming land, a throne, or property, mankind has used violence to get what it wants. Unfortunately, this mindset includes relationships between men and women.

Women are generally the victims in relationships gone bad. From verbal to physical abuse, women suffer at the hands of their boyfriends and husbands. This even extends to the workplace from colleagues and casual acquaintances. There are countless stories of women being harassed by male colleagues at work. These colleagues range from members of their teams to their bosses. And often, if women complain to human resources about the harassment they find themselves in trouble.

Many men feel that control in a relationship is important. They learned this caveman thinking from their fathers, grandfathers, and uncles. Ordering their women around gives men a feeling of power. When verbal abuse turns physical, many men get a rush seeing their women cower in fear. Men feel this makes them manly. It just makes them bullies.

When a man kills a woman, he’d rather hide the fact than own up to it. Or he will kill himself rather than face justice. These men had no problem butchering a woman but are cowards when dealing with the law. They don’t want their families, friends, and neighbors to know they’re a murderer. It’s such twisted logic.

Violence against women must end. Men need to reflect on their violent tendencies. Love is not abuse. Abuse is not love. Women deserve men who will protect and provide for them. Men need to understand that women would rather be alone than deal with a man who will mistreat them.

If you’re a woman in an abusive relationship, please seek help. Tell your family, friends, and coworkers. Go to a minister or priest. Check out resources at community centers and hospitals. There are also online support groups that can help.

Men, if you’re an abuser, definitely get help, Your anger is destructive. Abuse is not the answer. Power does not come from a fist. Go to therapy. Go to church. Join a support group. Learn how to communicate positively with your significant other. Shed the antiquated ideas of what it means to be a man in today’s world. Our country needs men who will protect women not hurt them.

If you know someone who is in an abusive relationship, don’t ignore their plight. Talk to them. Get them resources. Your help may save their lives.