I’m not a Britney Spears fan, but I understand what she’s going through

Free Britney!

Britney Spears told a judge, “I just want my life back.” Spears’ father, who controls her $60 million dollar fortune, has controlled her life for over a decade. Spears wants to have her own life once again. Spears told the judge that “I’m angry it’s insane.” No wonder her fans protest holding “Free Britney” signs.

It would appear that Spears is a prisoner. Spears stated that the conservatorship is “abusive.” Spears is given drugs like lithium. She’s on birth control despite wanting more children. Her personal relationships are controlled. Spears has to work where her team tells her and if she says no, it’s a problem.

It reminds me of a bad marriage. The wife, once madly in love, now feels trapped. Her husband, who was her world, has now become her nightmare. I can relate to the controlling, overbearing presence that Spears’ father presents. I go through it every day.

When I got married, I was young and naive. I didn’t know what marriage was. My parents hadn’t been married and my husband’s parents were divorced. We felt we were both ready after being together for several years. I was in love and wanted to be married. I wanted to have children, a house, and a comfortable life.

Years later, I work a stressful job, have one child, and nothing but debt. I'm still married, but it’s become a cage. Spears is in a cage. That’s why I relate to her statements to the judge. Love shouldn’t be controlling. Love shouldn’t be restrictive. Love shouldn’t make you feel trapped. I feel for Britney. She wants to be free and wants to determine her future. As do I, Britney. As do I.